There is lots of evidence that ongoing, frequent and intense arguments can make children feel anxious and worried. Children struggle to understand why arguments between adults happen and it can make them feel as if the arguments are their fault.
Children who live with ongoing, destructive conflict and arguments can:
- Do less well at school than their friends
- Struggle with their emotional well-being and feel more anxious
- Struggle to sleep properly
- Develop poor communication skills
- Struggle to resolve conflict in their own life with friends and others
Babies, toddlers, children and young people can be upset and anxious about their parent or carer relationships even if they seem ok on the outside. Children often keep their worries inside and that can make everyone around them think that they are doing well.
Even if you think the children can’t hear your arguments, they know that something isn’t right and this makes them feel unsettled.