Constructive Conflict (helpful behaviours)
Constructive conflict (helpful behaviours) enables couples to calmly disagree, acknowledge differences and find a solution. Couples will be able to focus on the topic of disagreement and not blame one another, show respect to each other, and reach a compromise. This approach is healthy and benefits the children by role modelling how to resolve disagreements.
Deconstructive Conflict (harmful behaviours)
Destructive conflict (harmful behaviours) is usually depicted by partners swearing or shouting at each other, being unable to resolve issues, trying to win, not listening to the other, spending periods sulking, ignoring each other, or walking off, slamming doors, and creating an atmosphere at home which is uncomfortable for all. The lack of resolution can mean that disagreements may start off as one thing, but then other past events or comments arise. Partners may make hurtful and insensitive comments towards each other which the children hear. Sometimes parents may think the child is unaware as disagreements take place away from the child e.g., the child may have been in another room or ‘asleep’, but children are aware of the conflict and may feel the tension in the home.